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Below you can see a link to a website that my bold alter has created as result of him being inspired by Castor Girl's question in her blog comment.
The website is very simple, even minimalistic (no colors, no pretty graphics), just a few questions for dissociative ones (and/or their significant others)
Here is the link - who do you love when you say I love you (I apologize for my English -we are not a native speakers).
My dragonslippers
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Four years ago, my abusive marriage ended. I thought that the passing of
four years was long enough, and that I would be “over it” by now… I was
wrong. O...
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Sam(o) - I love this :D
ReplyDeleteBTC - thanks for letting me know that (at least one of) you/your parts loved it.
ReplyDelete@ BTC - we forgot to make another website for the reverse situation (when significant others are being loved by us dissociative people), going something like this who-you-are-loved-by-when-multiple-says-I-love-you ?
ReplyDeleteAre you loved as much by the courageous as you are by the scared alter?
etc Have to put it on my to-do list :)
@ Sam - how about how many of us love the one (external) object.. as well as how many does the object see and love in return because all relationships are seen from both sides, just more complicated when one side contains many?
ReplyDelete@ BTC - if I understand you correctly, what you have in mind when speaking of "object" is "part of the person" (i.e. alter)... and the question is what then the relationship-between-two-dissociative-persons looks like, or am I wrong?
ReplyDeleteActually.. I guess both.
ReplyDeleteThe object is usually outside therefore in this sense I meant "other" - a partner, wife, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend.. who is it who loves them and who do they think loves them and how is this communicated.
But then, also, who loves who inside and who will tolerate who and who hates who is the essence of internal communication. Until there is engough cohesion internally there can be no unified sense of love... or can there?
Sorry to respond slightly off topic Samo, but do you realise that we never knew English was not your native language until you mentioned it :) Please give yourself more credit, you speak from the heart and a reasoning of the mind - that is much more important than whether a full stop or word is slightly out of place :)
ReplyDeleteThis has bugged us when we saw you writing it as we saw it more from the view that you were subtly putting yourself down, rather than explaining things. We're very sorry if we've got this wrong.
Take care...
Oh, God - the improved version of Him/Her :) - thank you so much my dear friend, yes I or it is my misunderstood alter who was at age of 5 years in foregn language speaking neighboring country left by our father for indefinite time in hospital for asthamit children does feel the way you guessed, subtly putting ourselves down, because he was put down by other children at the hospital who spoke foregin language and put him down for not being able to speak "right"...
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you weren't offended by us being pushy with our opinion...
ReplyDeleteIt must have been incredibly scary to be left in that hospital when you were so young. I can see why your misunderstood alter would have felt so isolated - yet so strong for getting through that experience.
Take care...